Friday, February 8, 2008

This un-fairy tale

I've been talking to my friend online for a while now. (and yes, we're friends irl too) But she's very sick. I mean, very very very sick, like, I don't know how she functions. She's been diagnosed with Dysautonomia as well (except hers is high HR and BP, where as mine is High HR and LOW BP), but she's also has a chronic pain disease (not the same as mine :-p), PCOS and a few other lovely choice diseases to make one's living miserable. She is the strongest person I know. She seems to never let it get her down! She works full time, goes to SCHOOL full time, and volunteers for places.

Today, I've been talking to her online, and she's talking about suicide. This is something that I'm torn about. I know that last year, when my health was at it's worst, I wanted to kill myself SO desperately, that I almost did. The only thing stopping me was the people I left behind would be even MORE hurt and upset by that than by my being a burden on them.

As most people know, I'm a suicide advocate. I know it's controversial, and may sound silly, but I think that people should be able to kill themselves if they've exhausted every other option, have made the decision in a non-emotional state, and have no children. This is difficult for me to deal with. I love my friend, and I know that this is a really difficult decision. It's just...breaking my heart that I can't do anything for her. I've even suggested God. Faith gives people hope. People with hope want to live regardless of how hopeless the situation is.

3 comments:

Aprille - The Muddled said...

What a hard situation to be in, both you and especially her. I am glad you suggested faith. I don't know that I believe in healing - not in the "hallelujah, youv'e been healed way - but I do believe that faith can help someone through anything. Even emotional and physical pain. Actually, I think it is these times of absolute desperation that let us forfeit control enough (like we would have this problem?) to consider faith. It is a process I will pray she will consider.

It is hard to step back from yourself and see the ramifications of suicide, I am glad you did. There are very few people in the world, possibly none, who no one would miss.

I have enjoyed reading your posts. I love that we can scratch the surface this way.

Aprille - The Muddled said...

also, I don't know if you see this but the picture you posted - it looks like wings coming out of his back.

Anonymous said...

I know it must be very difficult to
be going thru this situation with your friend...I commend you for your honesty.
I have been at that same desperate point myself, and the reason I could not do it was the pain I would cause all of my dear family.
Sometimes the most loving thing we can do
is to keep going~even in pain.
Know that I love you, sara,
and I'm very proud of you.
Interesting point you made
to your friend...
YES, God does offer HOPE
when life really sucks!
I KNOW this..
Hang in there...with life and your friend.
There is Hope for you , too.
all my love, marmee